Remove insecurity

How do you feel about yourself? Do you like yourself? Do you compare yourself to other people? Do you put yourself down all the time? Would it surprise you to know that most people feel insecure in one way or another? Many of us don't know it, some of us do. But, you know, God is there for us, and he's on our side.

I know those things because I used to feel that way. I used to hate so many things about myself and I used to compare myself to other people all the time. I hated my built, I hated the color of my skin, I hated my legs, I hated my voice. I wanted to be like the guys I know. When somebody said "you have a cute smile" Instead of saying thank you, I would say "no, it doesn’t".

Insecurity is very unattractive. One of the most attractive things that a person can have is confidence, not arrogance and not pride but confidence – confidence in who you are. There are people you could compliment a hundred times but they will keep putting themselves down and nothing you say can make them change because change has to happen down on the inside. You have to see yourself the way God sees you and that can only happen on the inside.

These has everything to do with placing our value on our looks and other people's opinions rather than on our identity in Christ, which I know is wrong. And I know we must be looking to cultivate an inner beauty that will not fade or perish, rather than focusing on our outward appearance. And I know that it is also very much to do with being led by our feelings ("I just don't feel very beautiful", "I feel like no one thinks I'm pretty") rather than the Word of God, which declares we are wonderfully made (Psalm 139). And yes, I know this is a symptom of being too much focused on ourselves instead of being caught up in God and His glorious gospel.
-- Emily (Unfurling Flower)

Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight. For this is the way the holy women of the past who put their hope in God used to make themselves beautiful.
-- 1 Peter 3:3-5

My heart is not proud, O LORD, my eyes are not haughty; I do not concern myself with great matters or things too wonderful for me. But I have stilled and quieted my soul; like a weaned child with its mother, like a weaned child is my soul within me. O Israel, put your hope in the LORD both now and forevermore.
-- Psalm 131:1-3